According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.7 million children, more than 1 in 4, live without a father in the home. Research shows that when a child is reared with their father absent from the home, he or she is affected in the following ways:
- Four times greater risk of poverty
- Seven times more likely to become pregnant as a teen
- More likely to have behavioral problems
- More likely to face abuse and neglect
- Two times greater risk of infant mortality
- More likely to abuse alcohol and drugs
- Twice as likely to suffer obesity
- More likely to go to prison
- More likely to commit crime
- Twice as likely to drop out of high school
(Data from Fatherhood.org.)
The Family: A Defense Against Tyranny
The traditional two-parent home is one of the best defenses our society has against anarchy and tyranny. It is in the home that children are taught values, morals, good behavior, cooperation, work-ethic, and team-building skills. Typically, fathers tend to be instinctively protective of their wives and children. Mothers, too, have a natural Mama-bear instinct to protect their young. Each of these individuals brings a unique mix of protection, nurturing, and emotional and physical support.
While stereotyping men as the protectors and providers may have been common in the past, there are plenty of variations. For example, in my family of origin, my mother was the authoritative figure, more likely to discipline, and more likely to stand up to outside forces that threatened our home or those in it. My father provided for the family, brought a nurturing presence, and provided protection in his own unique way. He was never one to pursue conflict with anyone in the world, but has an aura of safety and trust about him. Any worry or concern I had as a child melted away in my father’s presence. I knew he would keep me safe.
Together, my parents were a complete package that helped develop their children into well-rounded adults.
From the very beginning of recorded history, God instituted the family in the creation and union of Adam and Eve. He said it was not good for man to be alone. For children to achieve their highest likelihood for emotional, physical, mental and spiritual development, a two-parent home (while not always practical or possible) is the ideal.
The Family: Archenemy of Marxism
According to the philosophy of Karl Marx (the father of socialism and communism), the traditional family is considered a tool of the Bourgeoisie elite and a capitalistic creation. Marx claimed that humanity lived in tribal promiscuous hordes until capitalism came along and the elite started using the two-parent home to pass wealth from one generation to another. *
Marxism, and the cultural Marxism we see infesting our current society in the Progressive and Socialist movements, is anti-family. Family, according to this philosophy, is just something that morphs with society and has no optimal structure. In fact, traditional family is the enemy. It is something to be undermined and destroyed.
Why?
Strong Families Make Strong Nations
A nation with strong families and two-parent households is more likely to teach values such as independence and personal responsibility. Independence and personal responsibility directly correlate to freedom. You can’t have freedom without personal responsibility. And you can’t have true freedom inside of tyranny (socialism which eventually evolves into communism and oligarchy). The two do not coexist.
Thus, destroying the family is a key method for a gradually devolving free society into socialism/communism.
Strong families are more likely to protect themselves against outside tyranny and oppression. Here’s a personal example:
Decades ago, the IRS audited my father about some matter for which he was innocent. They claimed he owed millions of dollars, which he did not. An IRS agent showed up at the house and began harassing my dad. My mother was sitting there, and she discreetly turned on a tape recorder. After a few minutes, the agent noticed what my mother had done, and told her she couldn’t record the conversation. My mother proceeded to tell him in her no-nonsense way that it was her house, and she could do anything she pleased in her house.
The man left and in time the matter was resolved in my father’s favor. My father probably never would have thought to record the conversation; and he was too gentle to go toe-to-toe with the IRS agent. But my mom, as Southern and gentile as she was, stood up for her family like a bear when provoked. Can you see how a two-parent home came in handy against tyranny in this situation? I sure can!
Attacks Upon Men Are Attacks Upon the Family and Our Nation
Not only are government social programs geared toward incentivizing single motherhood with additional payouts, but also our society demeans men and masculinity. It downplays the role of fathers.
I recently spoke with Christi Turley Diamond (a Director of Marriage Boot Camp and a Certified Life Coach and Certified Grief and Loss Recovery Specialist) about the work she and her husband do with couples. She said,
“So many men are in self-preservation mode.”
In the work she and her husband, Rick Diamond, do with couples, they have noticed that shifts in our society have had a demoralizing effect on men and masculinity. This is negatively affecting marriages and families, leading to more divorce and to more fathers leaving the home. This, obviously, results in more of the negative effects on society which I listed at the beginning of this article.
A Solution
In her work with men, specifically, Christi has seen dramatic shifts that have helped to save marriages and families. She told me that many times, a wife brings a husband kicking and screaming, completely resistant to going to a Marriage Bootcamp. By the end, the man is the biggest fan of the event, excited to share it with the world. He has found safety in opening his heart and giving a voice to buried feelings. He’s unveiled the wounding that created the walls he once used to push his wife away in the first place. Being in a community with other men gives him the ability to let go of the belief that “men don’t talk about feelings,” which is so deeply ingrained in him by society.
Christi shares, “We’ve made marriage so easily disposable in our county, and at an extremely high cost to our children and our society. If we realized that healing and fixing our marriages isn’t an impossible monumental mountain to climb. Repairing and healing marriages requires only a few shifts here and there. These shifts create a domino effect that leads to transformation in marriage and re-connection of relationships. This leads to the family unit remaining intact, with both parents. Many, many times we see couples who are on their last leg literally turn their marriage around in four days.”
If we can keep families together, the result would be a changed nation.
Are you or someone you know having marital problems? Perhaps you’re wondering whether it’s time to throw in the towel or time to stay and fight for it? Christi Turley Diamond and Rick Diamond know how that feels. They were there and turned their situation completely around. Now Christi and Rick work together to help couples transform their marriage as they’ve facilitated a marriage boot camp for years and do virtual relationship coaching. Before you give up, talk to them! Book a free 30-minute consultation today.
Note: I receive no financial remuneration for sharing information with you about the Diamond’s relationship coaching services. I’m simply sharing it as a possible solution for a serious problem I see in the world.
Additional Resources on Marxism and the Destruction of the Family
* Marx wrote in The Communist Manifesto: “On what foundation is the present family, the bourgeois family, based? On capital, on private gain. In its completely developed form, this family exists only among the bourgeoisie,”
Marx believed that abolishing the family would be relatively easy once bourgeois property was abolished. “The bourgeois family will vanish as a matter of course when its complement vanishes, and both will vanish with the vanishing of capital.”
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