Have you noticed that the same basic data is being interpreted in a completely opposite manner by so-called journalists and social media? One person reads a transcript and sees a crime. Another person reads the same transcript and sees nothing wrong at all. How does this happen?

I’m going through Leslie Householder’s Mindset Mastery program and this statement stood out to me today:

“”Facts” come in. Simple data. Every thought that enters our mind is nothing more than basic input. WE are the ones who attach meaning to the input. In and of itself, the input just is. It is what it is.”

I was thinking of this in terms of all the “news” we see reported every day as “facts.” Most of what we see and hear is not “fact.” The information we are bombarded with throughout the day has had meaning(s) attached to it. It is no longer “fact” but “opinion.”

Example: Did you hear about the commercial about a man giving his wife a piece of exercise equipment for Christmas? It’s a simple fact… this equipment exists and could be used as a gift. Yet, social media got hold of this and turned it into an offensive thing to give your wife a piece of exercise equipment.

The fact is… here is a piece of exercise equipment. It could be given as a gift. The meaning attached to it was that this misogynistic man couldn’t accept his wife as she was and wanted her to be more perfect. She wasn’t good enough in his mind. Giving her this exercise equipment was cruel and an affront to all women.

Where did that come from? The stories, the insecurities, the drama, fears, and false beliefs of a society that constantly and never-endingly looks for offense in the most benign places.

This happens on a grand scale with the “news” we’re fed. It isn’t news. It’s adulterated data. If we are ever to know the truth, we must find some way to detach “facts” from the meaning we and others attach to them. An exercise bike is just an exercise bike.

“Just the Facts, Ma’am”

So the next time you hear something controversial…

a) Look at the source data. What does it say? What was actually said in an uncut, unedited version in complete context?

b) If you attach no meaning or bias, what do the facts say? What does it say if you do no “reading between the lines” and make no assumptions?

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The trouble with labels is all you have to do is label someone as racist, homophobe, xenophobe, misogynist, narcissist, or Islamophobe and you don’t have to deal with them anymore. You don’t have to converse with them or understand their point of view or respect them. Everything they are or any good in them is erased. They are now nonhuman. They are incapable of change, redemption or progress. You have in essence damned them. You are playing God making an assessment of them that can never be reversed.

You might say that conservatives label people as socialists, liberals or leftists with an equal amount of disdain. But I don’t believe it’s the same. Conservatives believe people can change. We’ve seen it happen. I have seen liberals become conservatives. Even people who were once socialist have become conservative in their thinking. It happens nearly every day.

My dad told me once that if you see a young person in their early twenties who isn’t a liberal, you wonder if they have a heart. If they’re still liberal by the time they reach their mid 30’s to 40’s you wonder if they have good sense. There’s something about growing up and living in the real world: having a job, paying your own way, and getting taxed that wakes you up to reality. You suddenly want to keep what you’ve earned. Having the government take it away and give it to other people who haven’t earned it doesn’t feel incredibly fair anymore. So, calling someone a liberal, democrat or leftist isn’t assigning them a permanent destination.

But misogynists, narcissists, racists, etc…. fewer people expect or allow those people to change. Someone who wore black-face thirty years ago (when it was no thing) is a racist today and loses their job because a picture of them at a by-gone Halloween party crops up. In today’s world, there is no statute of limitations on racism, bigotry, etc. There is no allowance for growth.

People were created to learn, change, grow. No one is all good or all bad. If we want to grow and change ourselves we must allow others the opportunity as well. Do we really want to live in a world where there is no redemption? No letting go? No moving on from the past? Where one misstep, one misspoken word, or series of steps/words damns you for the rest of your life?

Our self-righteous, “enlightened” society is eventually self-damning; for there isn’t a soul on this planet who has lived a perfect life save one. And individuals with the same self righteous hypocrisy tortured and murdered Him for it. Even He wasn’t good enough for them. One day we’re going to need the mercy we denied others and it won’t be there.

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Today I’m coming out of the closet … I’m willing to admit it: I may be a closet racist. It’s true. If racism is feeling (or reacting) differently about one skin color compared to another, then, perhaps, by that definition, I am racist. If racism is the classic definition – believing one race is superior to another – then no, I am not racist.

There is a photo going around the internet of two little boys – one black and one white. The white boy wanted to get his hair cut just like his friend so that their teacher couldn’t tell them apart. They looked alike in features, only skin color differed, yet the little boys didn’t see that at all. They just saw the similarities.

I, on the other hand, still see color. I don’t have anything against color, but I am aware that people of color have different life experiences than I do. I was never told that I couldn’t do or achieve something because of my skin color (or even because of my gender). Even though I’m a white woman, raised in the South, I don’t BELIEVE I live in a society that feels I’m disadvantaged.

There is an over-riding power of belief that shapes our destinies. Thomas Edison’s schoolteacher told his mother Thomas was too dumb to remain in school and kicked him out. Thomas’ mother told him he was too smart for school and that the teacher recommend she tutor him at home.

BELIEF is everything.

I don’t know what it’s like to be told my whole life that I am disadvantaged, that everything will be harder for me, that society will fight me every step of the way. That groups of people hate me. What a daunting specter to have hanging over your head your whole life! Expectation and belief govern destiny.

I’m certainly not saying all people of color were told these things. Some were not. But I’m willing to bet more of them were fed those lines – those limiting belief statements — than were people of my skin color. I’m also not saying that people in some parts of the country don’t deal with real challenges and threats to their safety due to racism. In other words, I’m not saying it’s all in their minds (their beliefs).

That being said, here’s where that closet racist comes in for me … I get really excited and celebrate when I see a person of color succeed. Not only are they doing the hard things, the things that make this world a better place, but they do it despite any limiting beliefs they were told about themselves or their race.

When they excel in business, when they become brain surgeons or doctors, when they do amazing things in a classroom, when they lead congregations, when they invent something or create something, yes, I’m filled with admiration… more so than if someone of my race did the same thing.

Is that patronizing? Is that racist? Maybe, but NOT for the reasons most people would say. It’s because I know they are fighting these lies, these limiting beliefs, that so many in society – especially the left – feed them. “You need extra help, because of your race and/or gender, otherwise, you won’t succeed.” I’ve NEVER had to live my life behind that specter and falsehood.

Here’s a personal example: I recently went to the optometrist. As my new doctor walked in, my heart gave a little leap as I saw she was a black woman. I literally thought to myself: “Oh, how cool! A black woman doctor!” I couldn’t help but think that this was something my grandparents would have never seen.

Another example: I get excited when social media personalities of color speak out for conservative principles. I know this most likely takes a lot of courage to buck the system and go against societal conditioning.

And so, yes, I am a racist. I still inwardly react differently to people of color. I am rooting for them. I am excited for them when they succeed. Sure, I’m excited when other people have success, too, but I can’t deny that little inward jubilation when someone of color stands out above the crowd and creates his or her own life on their own terms. Most likely, that took more doing than it would for me or for someone of my heritage or social background … or, yes, dare I say it? race.

So, yeah, I’m a racist. Maybe one day, there will be absolutely no distinctions, no cultural expectations, nothing but people … just people living their lives, happy for each other’s successes, rooting for each other regardless of any cultural groupings.

Maybe one day we’ll all be like those two little boys. Maybe we’ll live the dream Dr. King spoke of, where people are not judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. I hope so.

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